How Happy Are You?
You Ready For Love? (A Quiz)
Take this important quiz to discover just how happy you
are & just how ready for a new relationship!

    Men Only! (Women's Secrets!)  wow!

Women Only! (Men's Secrets!  neat!

What to DO & NOT DO
on your first DATE!  new!

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Answer each question with either a yes or a no.
This quiz was created to help you to find the answers...

"Are you happy & are you ready for Love?"

1.  Are you being cared for and nurtured
by someone else in your life?

2.  Do you see a good future ahead for yourself... as a whole?

3.  Do you really know how to be good to yourself?

4.  Are you financially secure?

5.  Is there someone who could and would help you
in an emergency situation?

6.  Can you and do you enjoy yourself in
the time you spend by yourself?

7.  Do you feel honestly connected to another human being?

8.  Are you sexually fulfilled in your life?

9.  Do you know why, basically, you are on this earth?

10. Do you feel physically healthy?

The more yes answers you gave, the happier you are likely to be.
To get more satisfaction, create room in your  life to
be able to honestly accept the joy you deserve!
The key to healing love... being ready...
The happiest people are balanced. More people are striving for fewer and fewer
material pleasures... and opting for internal well-being.
Getting and giving real love is becoming a matter of life or of death.
Most importantly, if you feel good about yourself, inside yourself,
your balancing act intimate partners, family, children, and other relationships
will naturally fall into the right place. Do you need to work on balance and self love
before a relationship? Hmmm.

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Men Only! 
(Women's Secrets)

Women will bring their problems to you... but, most of the time, they do not want you to fix
them! Although it seems like she wishes a solution... a logical answer, she really
just needs to vent and 'let it all out!' If you attempt to interrupt and solve her problems,
 (especially in a logical manner), she will become more upset and even think that you are
not really listening and are not sensitive! That's a woman! Not like men at all!
Just listen patiently and fully and she will feel as if you are the most sensitive man on earth!

" I ALWAYS" "YOU NEVER"  Women use those "Always" and those "Never"
statements a lot. The problems come when men take those words literally and
become defensive about them. For example, the woman might say:
 "You Never take me anywhere," and you chime in, (in your defense), "Never?  It was just two weeks
ago when I took you to that movie you wanted to see!"  Another example is: 
"You always treat me as if I was your maid!" In response you may say, "That's not true!
Last weekend I brought home take out and helped with the house the next day!"
...and so the fight begins!

Men think much more literally and women much more emotionally.
Men think that they "always and never" statements are literal, women know
what they mean... and they are using those terms loosely!
Remembering this, may save a lot of arguments! 

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Women Only!
(men's secrets!)

Many women feel as if men as a whole are terribly insensitive. 

Often, this feeling she gets is un-warranted! 

Men and women have almost completely different  thinking and thoughts. They have different emotional makeup, different needs and they just tick differently - it's their makeup and you can't change that or feel it is a personal hurt to you when you don't get the man you love to "understand" "be sensitive" or change in any other way.

Men are fixers, for example, and feel that they need to help and fix women's
problems when they bring one to them. Many times women just want to "vent" or "share"
their problems with men and men respond in a logical and upfront manner
leaving many women to feel as if their man were non-feeling!
For  example, Woman: "I am so mad and stressed out!
My boss wants me to work this weekend AGAIN! Doesn't he think that I have a life too!"
Your man may respond, (cutting your venting in half!),
by saying: "Just tell him that it's too much for you and you don't want to ..... "
This is a logical 'fixing' of your problem, but all you wanted
is someone to listen! Men really do want to help and they think that
whenever you bring up a concern, you want Them to fix it!
They don't know you want to just have an ear to listen.
Just explain this concept to him and he will be more than happy to just listen!
Men talk to other men and bring up problems only when they need their help.
They feel we all think this way!

On the same note, since men are logical thinkers and women are emotional
thinkers in any given situation, women may feel like they are not romantic or
are not emotionally close to them. This is not true either. When you tell them
that they do not care anymore and are constantly telling them that they are insensitive,
they take it to heart.
They feel like they can never please you & often times give up... very sad!

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First Date Do's and Don'ts and Hot Tips

         Are you going out on first dates and not getting called for a second one, (or tuned down for the second one)? Are you so nervous on fist dates that you can't seem to enjoy the date?  Do you really like a certain someone and want to impress them and have them fall for you like you have for them?  SOME of you get anxiety before a first date and it can make it hard for you to relax and just be yourself - let your personality shine -- while OTHERS of you are so overly confident and are not anywhere close to being the nervous types that you tend to come off a bit too proud of yourself, too cocky and without even knowing it, turn your date off?  Do you feel pressed to talk and can't seem to think of anything to say on a first date - leaving you searching the room with your eyes and looking as if you have some serious learning disabilities? Do you go out on a two hour date and return home not knowing anything about your date than what you knew before it? Here is a list of first date tips, first date do-not's and first date do's! Reading the explanations for each of them will help you understand the "why" behind the do, don't or tip. Enjoy!  

, Number One:

Be Ready for the date in each and Every Way

Men, it's not a very good first impression on the ladies if you need to pull into a gas station sometime during your date! No ATM-runs either! It can make it seem like you were too busy before the date to prepare for it. Lack of preparing or planning can make a girl feel like you didn't put much thought into the plans and obviously don't really think she is worth going out of your way to set up a nice evening. No girl wants to be a "second thought" or someone you squeeze in between your workouts and a few college football games. If your car is dirty on the outside and your interior is filled with presentation boards from a business meeting last Wednesday and a couple of empty Starbucks cups, that can have the same sort of effect. On that same note: do not ask the lady where she would like to go on your date. Don't call her a couple hours before you pick her up and ask and don't ask her when you pick her up. Best bet - don't ask her at all. First of all, you asked her out and it your responsibility to have a place in mind and an evening planned. She won't feel special and again, won't feel like you cared enough to plan for her. She will probably not even tell you if you ask her. It puts her in a catch-22 position right off the bat, first time out with you. She won't know if she should pick a fancy restaurant that makes her look high maintenance, a cheaper run down joint so as not to almost force you into a high dinner bill (and risk you thinking she is not classy) or any number of pre-conceived notions she may plant in you. Believe me, the women really does think about those things, even when men are not wired to have such thoughts and feelings, women do. So, bottom line, be on time, be fully ready and have the night planned - you'll look considerate, together and make her feel that you care about both her and having a nice evening with her. 

Likewise, Ladies, don't make the him wait "Just a few more minutes!" He may not think the same way as women do and feel like you didn't have time to really give the evening and date much thought - but he may feel disrespected and that is not a great first impression at all. If you talked about the date, agreed to be ready by 7:00 and he made the effort to plan the evening and get there on time, you need to make an effort to get ready. His time is of value to him too and making him wait around while you make your last moment makeup adjustments, have your "best shoe for your outfit" dilemma or finish up your lengthy text message conversation with your friend over a party happening the night before are not signs that you respect his time or him. Men may not like to show it, but some are very nervous on first dates and it would be more awkward for him to sit around and pretend to not mind your "adorable little dog" jumping all over him while thinking about how nervous he is about the date, watching the clock and feeling more and more disrespected each passing moment.  

Guys and Gals - give this some serious thought for a moment:  If a date is not truly important enough to you - then you may not really think enough of the coming evening to prepare for it, be ready and be excited about it. If that is the case with a certain date, then perhaps you are attempting to date someone that deep down, you really are not crazy over. If that is the case, maybe going through with it would be a waste of your time and their time. Be honest with yourself and with them. If you don't feel possibilities, you may want to just opt out. If you are excited and really interested in the other person and getting to know them, you will care enough to at least make it seem like you want to go out with them and they are important and that you wouldn't want to miss the date for the world!

, Number two:

first impressions happen only once and in the first few moments,
don't underestimate those moments or think they're unimportant
as it is those first impressions that could make second dates impossible!

Be respectful - because if you are truly being respectful and thinking about the other person on the date as well as yourself, you will avoid some mistakes that may blow your date's first impression pf you, and you can't take first impressions back and do a re-do!   Don't under-dress for your date and be appropriate. When you meet for a nice dinner at a decent restaurant, don't show up in jeans with a tee-shirt, tennis shoes and an old "worn-in for your comfort"  denim jacket.  That act alone can show that you have little regard for your date or the date you are on. Plans could be made by one that were thought to be special and unique and you show up looking like you just came home from a softball game and on your way to help your friend move some things out of her apartment.  If you look as if you really care about how you present yourself to your date, you seem as if you don't care enough to bother with them (and maybe just doing this quick meal thing because hey, it's a free meal. That's disrespectful. You may feel out of place when you arrive and see that your date is dressed nicely and appears well groomed and neat. Next to you he looks like a class-act who somehow got mismatched with someone who doesn't care for herself, try to impress and frankly, is beneath him. Likewise, guys, don't show up at that same dinner dressed in a Hooters shirt with bright blue walking shorts, white sneakers and short dress socks.  She'll be there looking beautiful, clean, fresh and eye-catching in her dressed up sundress and clean white dress sandals. She will see you and make an instant judgment based on your efforts to dress up for her and appear serious in the date. Looking like you are so casual you don't mind what others think of you may be a positive attribute to you, but believe me, not to her.  She really won't care that you have some carefree progressive way of thinking and a rebellious look because you believe in not conforming and stand by your beliefs!   Show the world you are a rebel and non-conformist on your own time and at least for this first date, show her that she is not one of those that he is proving his rebel point to -- she wants to be special, not part of the world you oppose, but rather your date who should be worth enough to have a date who doesn't look like a fool.  Ultra sexy - not a good look. It's not a good time to look as if you just came from your job on the street corner or from a muscle builder competition for a playboy cover shot.  It's simple, be respectful and know what you know - gentlemen do not wear old jeans and faded tees and girls don't wear lingerie and boas on their spiked heels -- it's all a turn-off, no matter how many cat calls you ladies get from the men building the tall structure and guys, it's a turn-off, no matter how much a clean colored shirt and a pair of slacks may feel confining on your skin or cramping to your style.   

, Number two:

great first date locations vs bad first date locations

If you think about your overall goals for your first (or second) date, you will find it helpful in choosing where to go and what to do. First dates are usually a time that a couple try to get to know each other better, see if there is any chemistry, pick up on the other's great personality traits and have some fun. Thinking about how couples go about learning more about each other and how they do not, will make this a bit easier for you and narrow the possibilities down a bit. 

Here are some examples and explanations of some of the worst first date choices you can make:  

Worst first date scenario one;

The movies are always a great date for established couples. They are easy to plan and fun for both - but the movies are NOT a good choice for a first (or second) date and there are some MAJOR reasons why. First of all, there is virtually no communication while watching a movie, no interaction and you won't learn a lot about each other (other than their preference in soft drinks and if they like buttered popcorn or goobers). At the movies there is no eye contact and no none-verbal body language - so it is a poor choice for your date. Something else to consider if you take a first date to the movies -- The entire date and more importantly you - will be sized up and assessed by factors that may not be the best ones to offer. If the movie was bad, all your date knows about you is that you have no taste. If you thought it would be really funny, but it turned out to be the kind that is sort of dumb and juvenile  - your date will think that you are drawn to that sort of movie and as such, you are juvenile, immature and "dumb".  The assessment outside the movie will all be based on the empty chatter you engaged in while waiting in line for the movie and that awkward feeling you both try to soothe by scanning the crowd for entertaining people to point out and mention. The last impressions to assess are made up of a movie review you give to one another as you walk to the car. Too much risk of a bad first impression and too little known about the other could spell disaster. You may not get a second date if all the first impressions came from the few and superficial clues gathered from a night at the movies. 

Worst first date scenario TWO:

If you choose to share some part of you on your date that includes a personal hobby you love or an activity you really enjoy or are good at, think it through first. It may be an activity or place that you love and are so familiar with you just feel naturally happy, confident and certainly not nervous or out of your element, but what about your date?  Do your thing and it may turn out to be that complete nightmare for your date will suffer through and then tell all her friends about for years to come!  First dates are about both of you for the most part. It is nice to share a big part of yourself with your date, but first dates are a 50-50 shared thing. More importantly, your date may wish to appear eager and excited learning a new activity, for example, but when you begin the date, she can't catch on, can't get the basics and inside, you are turned off somehow. This thing is a big part of you and to her, just a one-time-deal that she is no good at and not really loving. You may not bring the thought to the front of your mind, but it can get in and linger - like;  "This date is not for me"  "This date doesn't do this thing I think is very easy for normal people well at all"   "This person doesn't like what I love"  "There is something wrong with her/him"  - Yep, those thoughts will come, like it or not. You don't know better, your date could otherwise be the love of your life, the perfect match in all other ways - but you'll never know, you just tested your date and your date failed... you just judged your date and it wasn't good and you just made your first date about your passion in life and didn't even consider your date's passion or that the date was an equal thing. You are unfair to your date because your date really had no idea of how important your passion or that they were being assessed by this activity they did poorly in.   You may say to yourself that you are not that shallow to judge a date by this activity, but don't kid yourself, it's a first date - dispensable and a let down.   If you really are a bigger person and a rare sort who absolutely will not judge your date by her performance with your passion, then consider your date's feelings. They watch you do this thing, love this thing, have passion for it, - and when they try it, they fail. They try again and again and just don't do well. They want to make a good first impression, but the activity is now frustrating and it makes them feel like a failure, an idiot, clumsy and self-conscious.   Surrounded by others who love it, they feel awkward and out of place. The date is uncomfortable and not fun. They don't take joy is seeing you do this thing, over and over, like a professional - like it is effortless - like you are having a blast - like the rest of the people are - all but your date who is on the sideline now wishing she were home with her cat. 

Worst first date scenario THREE:

       A two-in-one date for you! First dates should never ever be coupled with plans or activities made with your family or close friends. If your whole family is getting together for your parent's anniversary and there will be a special dinner, gifts, your sister and her family flying in from three states away and lots of photos to pass around till late into the evening, it's not a great first date. If your friends are having a get-together, a small party  where a handful of friends that have known each other for years will just "hang out and have fun" there, it's best to make your date night another night. You may think it is a fun choice and you may want to be there, but your date will be less thrilled. Your date barely knows you and doesn't know your family or friends of 10 years and would feel alone. It doesn't matter how hard you may think you will try to make them feel "part of the gang" - the best you can expect is that your date will simply pretend to be okay with the date and secretly count the moments until they can get the heck out of there. Of course, you won't want to be leaving the evening of fun any time early and your date knows that - and silently suffers. A second date would be hard to get at this point. If not for the date itself, for the lack of regard to your date's comfort - lack of putting yourself in their shoes and imagining what it would be like if the family time were reversed. Special family and friend events are best shared with family and friends until well after the first date, (maybe the 6th date or beyond when you are more established and they have at least the comfort of knowing you rather than knowing no one!   

Worst first date scenario FOUR:

You may think Amusement Parks are great first dates, but again, think it through. Sure, you can see the fun new rides that they just put in, the world's fastest roller coaster with the biggest drop, the fantasy atmosphere, the hours of activity for just one admission price and maybe you'll empress your date by winning a stuffed animal of their choice! What could be better than a day at the amusement park?  Well, maybe the things that you remember are all great, but the things you may be forgetting could be worse. Think of the pros and cons of your date location before you commit to it. Crowded walkways where you and your date are fighting for space with countless people and over-sized stuffed animals nudging into you. Consider that there may will be lots of children, tired worn out screaming children at seemingly every turn. Think of the long lines to the restrooms and the sometimes overly greasy or sugary foods and beverages that will cost  an arm and a leg (and will need to be purchased at least a couple times in the day). If you do win a giant stuff animal for your date, you are stuck with carrying it around which limits your activity and can become a burden quickly. Those new rides and super fast roller coaster may be great rides, but the hour and a half spent in line for all of them may not be so super. Finally, your communication is there, but can be limited to talking about your surroundings and not having an opportunity to get to know a little bit more about each other on a personal level.  So unless you know that your date is an amusement park buff, a die hard fan who can't get enough of that scene, you should probably think of another place for your first date.    

Worst first date scenario five:

A fun day at the beach or along side the river bank can be a fun date for those who have been dating for a while, but it can be a disaster for those who are on their first date. Maybe your body is lean and sexy and you are the type who is completely comfortable in very little close, your date may not be some willing to strip down to a bathing suit and strut around with someone she doesn't really know all that well half naked. Your date may not be thrilled with having her makeup washed off, sand in her rear, sitting  or laying on the sand all day - deprived of furniture to help her feel less exposed. She may not want to deal with tubing and the possibility of losing half of the little clothing she has to wear already. The bugs, the bathroom situation, the flying disk that came close and then finally hit her on the side of her head. Your date may not feel comfortable letting it all hang out while with someone she is trying to get to know and stressing over her now stringy hair and the bug stuck in her eye. She may adore the beach just as much as you do and adore the riverside activities, but would much prefer to already know those she is with and have them already know that normally, she looks fresh, clean and beautiful most of the time. Don't think to yourself "that sounds like a high maintenance girl who would worry about those things" or "if she loves the beach like she told me she does, it wouldn't bother her" Both those thoughts would be unfair. She will want to impress you and be at her very best on her first date. She will want to make a nice first impression and though she honestly loves the water - she would rather save that fun for any time after her first impression date with is behind her.

Okay, now for the more positive side of first date locations and activities:

Okay, by now you should have a good idea about the types of places that are not good choices for first dates. Looking at those examples and the reasoning behind them should make it easier for you to quickly judge a good location verses a poor choice of locations.

A basic rule of thumb would be for you to first remember your goal for your first date  - getting to know each other better.  Then, when you have an idea for a great first date, you can consider how easily you and your date will be able to communicate on that date and at that location. Next, you consider your date and their comfort  by putting yourself in their shoes. Know that they want to shine and want to impress you, just like you want to shine and be impressive. Remember to avoid those dates and places that will inhibit your date's chances to shine - it is only fair. 

If you think about those few things before you choose your date location and activity, you will be sure to pick a winner! 

Those were the worst places - but don't fret. There are still have hundreds of options that are unique and impressive - some even costing little or nothing but still offering you and your date a terrific chance to create great memories and an equal chance for you both to make a really nice first impression! 

Here are some examples and explanations of some of the BEST first date choices you can make:  

best first date scenario one:

I love this idea for a first date or any date thereafter! It has a host of positives and can prove to be a very successful experience if you are a little careful when you first plan it. What is it so wonderfully grand? Okay, I'll tell you, (but hear me out fully here), a comedy club! First I'll list the positive elements and then the warnings - ready? Most of the comedy clubs have a dinner before the show or a time for cocktails where you could sit, relax, chat for a bit, get to know each other and be in anticipation of the fun to come. In the comedy club I enjoy the most, the pre-show time also includes a roaming magician who will come to your table and perform a close up trick or two just for you and your date. You can feel a sort of novelty and uniqueness at a comedy club and just being in that atmosphere can give you a feeling of excitement and lift your mood higher than it may already be! At the beginning of your dinner/chatting, you should have a lot  to say and the conversation should be fresh because you are so new to each other and it IS a first date!  But sometimes the conversation can naturally slow down and you may feel like you are becoming a bit uncomfortable. Nothing major yet, just that time when you both really do not know what to say or how to begin a new topic - a normal thing. But at a comedy club, there is the inner peace for both of you that comes from knowing you will not be in any pressure to talk once the comedy begins. In other words, you know this lull won't last forever and you will be out of the communication and awkward shy moments soon.  If in a normal restaurant, you may be sitting at the table for a longer amount of time, face to face, talking. There you would have no break in the pressures of first date talking and need to remain there until the end of the date, keeping up your fading charm!  In the comedy club, the comedy show will provide a fun and upbeat break, an event to look forward to while dining and a promise of fun and laughter.   Next positive is the fact that laughter heals, reduces stress and its effects and laughter is a universal language that tells us all we are really having fun! Giving your date the opportunity to relax and let go in laughter is really giving a gift, a very wonderful gift at that. Laughter also makes our bodies produce awesome endorphins --  releasing them and giving us a natural feeling of well-being with a pleasant little high to boot! The feeling we experience is like the one a runner who has been running for some distance would feel, an incredible "runners high".  The good thing about laughing to achieve this feeling is there is no sweat and no work - can't beat that! Back to the date at hand.... You both have finished dinner and had a good conversation when the show starts. You both begin to laugh, loving the comedian and feeling happy (and maybe a little relieved that you have a break from the conversation. You know that it is perfectly okay to want to get to know each other in small spurts with breathers and in fact, it is natural and not a sign of incompatibility).  As you both sit through the show, you become more relaxed, less self-conscious, happier and finding that you are really enjoying yourself - on a first date no less!  If you happen to be near the stage and the comedian begins to pick on you as a couple and say some fairly wild things, enjoy it - take it all in! If it actually embarrassed you both, it was still fun and the embarrassment will go away fast. The embarrassment is really a blessing in a way because you can look back at the heckling by the comedian after the date and beyond and reminisce over it. You can later laugh about it as you leave the club, knowing and feeling that that you have actually been given an enjoyable memory that unites the two of you in a way and bonds you a bit - which of course, helps the chemistry and success of the whole first date experience!  When the show is over, the two of you will be in a really good mood. Still up from the endorphins, enjoying the physical, emotional mental benefits of laughing - your conversation will be light, fun and upbeat for the entire drive bringing your date home.  You have managed to create a great first date that allowed you the private personal time to discover a little about each other and time for you both to just relax, enjoy yourselves and have a great night out.  Now for the warnings about this magical date - it can backfire in some cases if you do not do a little homework. Some comedians can be down right nasty and use a type of humor that may not sit well with some. For example a comedian who uses colorful language every other word may offend a few who are more reserved. A couple comedians use a lot of sexual related material which can get a bit extreme and offend some. But the extreme levels of offensive jokes are not the norm and there are many comedians who have more tasteful material, don't rely on colorful language to get a laugh and who have gimmicks or topics that are much better than those who are extreme or use shock value to get a laugh. You can easily find out what comedians are featured at the comedy clubs in your area. If you do not know the humor of one or two of them who will be performing, call the club and ask them. They understand and will be more than happy to give you any answers you need - they know the comedians and their humor - its their job! You can see bigger comedy shows with the biggest comedian acts in concert like settings when they come to your area, but that type of date would not yield the benefits of the comedy club first date. Comedians travel and perform all over and the chances are good that you will find a good line up for your first date at a club near you. If you can make sure the humor leans more to the side of decency and plan to be there early for the dinner service prior to he show, then you will have the ingredients for a fantastic first date.      

best first date scenario two:

It seems that it has been almost traditional over the years that a first date be at a nice restaurant. Nice doesn't necessarily mean a fancy, formal or stuffy four star restaurant with a five course meal served from a menu you can just barely understand because it is either in French or the food is so gourmet and so elite that their actual names are unfamiliar to you. In fact, this type of restaurant is not a very good choice for first dates because a lot of the focus you should have on having fun, being yourself and getting to know one another can easily be diverted in this kind of atmosphere. Your date will be a bit more stressed trying to figure out what she needs to wear, what is good enough, acceptable and fitting for the date. The prices could make your date uncomfortable (and maybe make you sweat a little yourself). The waiters would be there a good deal of the time, offering their outstanding attentive service and serving one intimidating dish after another. He would bring in one bottle after another of course-fitting wine needing to breathe, be poured just a bit, swished, smelled, sipped, agreed upon and then poured for your date. If the entire experience is new to you or your date, you may spend way too much energy trying to calm your uncomfortable feelings down from time to time while and dealing with the food wine, service and the ever present mixed emotions of excitement and performance anxiety that comes with first dates. You don't need to bring your date to this sort of place - not at all. Remember, (from above), we talked about the importance of visualizing yourself in your date's shoes and making sure that your date has an opportunity to shine, feel at ease and make a good impression. There is a great chance that this date will be much harder and less pleasant to her because of it's formalness and she won't be able to just be herself. Your best bet, is a nice restaurant that you have been to and know the food, service and atmosphere are perfect for a first date. A place that will give you some privacy to talk to one another and that doesn't have music so loud that you cannot hear one another speak and provides some sort of edge, unique atmosphere, a special interest, novel serving style or awe-inspiring signature food.  An example would be one of my favorites - a place that has been around for decades, has an atmosphere that is slightly Polynesian without going overboard and a bartender that has been mixing his own award winning signature drink (a must try for all who visit) for nearly decades, (a novelty in himself), The food is excellent, but not overly fancy. They serve a lot of their exceptional steak dinners and are known for miles around for them. Their indescribably good salad comes to you in a really huge wooden bowl with over-sized wooden salad tongs and it is place on a stand that sits next to your table. The server tosses the giant salad to blend in their very own (secret recipe) yummy dressing and then serves it on ice cold plates along side a basket of their  freshly baked warm breads. Nothing stuffy, outstanding food, fun atmosphere and subtle yet entertaining and enduring  novelties that are unique to them. Another favorite spot hosts a dining room that creates a feeling that you are dining deep under the ocean. Surrounded by colorful live salt water fish in tanks seemingly buried in cave walls, you feel lost in another world. The isle ways you walk through to get to your tables are believably and tastefully adored with items from long ago sunken ships, the floor is wooden like a ship's deck. The soft lights and the nearly secluded  booths make this whole experience a treat, even before the food arrives. They have several specialty mixed drinks that can be shared by two. They are served in large bowls that appear to have small islands in the center of the lakes of blue liquid (or other colors). The center is lit on fire and soars on it's own like a miniature volcano gone wild. The very long blue straws reach in the liquid treat and you can both take your time sipping and savoring the tropical tastes it brings. The food is excellent and served with the same style and fun as the signature drinks. The menu full of fresh fish seems endless and divine. The dress is casual, mood comfortable and it makes for an enjoyable evening.   A more serious but wonderful dining experience favorite is a famous spot that servers prime rib exclusively.  Their seasoning is famous and known around the world and their prime rib is the best I have ever had anywhere. The prime rib is wheeled to your table on a closed large stainless steel cart. The server opens it up, reveals the beautiful  whole roast, carves the more than generous portions and serves you. The prime rib is served with Yorkshire pudding, a real treat that is hard to find when dining out for prime rib. Maybe because it is too much fuss over what some think is a traditional dish that has had it's time and is now over.  I say it is a traditional dish served with prime rib in the best of restaurants that think past the bother of making Yorkshire pudding and to their customer's desires.  This place is top notch, but is not one of the stuffy five course meal parade of food created for customers who spend small fortunes just on the clothes that they purchase to go there.   If you do not have a "perfect place" for your first date, then ask some trusted and tasteful friends for advice. If you would rather find it yourself, try a visit to Restaurant.com - Restaurant .com is a really fun place to shop for restaurants. You can enter an address or zip code of the city you would like to dine in and this site will bring up all the restaurants in that city / neighborhood. You can look at the type of food, (French, American, Mexican and all the others), the location and see photos of them. Even better, you can read the reviews, read about the restaurant itself, check to see if it is casual or dressy, get the price range, list of awards, special dishes, types of payments accepted and even find out if the place has an atmosphere that is romantic, casual, family geared, has a fireplace, is sporty, formal and the like. You will have most all of the information you need, researched for you and ready to read, (free). You may even discover some hidden gems or tucked away treasures! For guaranteed results, go there with a friend and try a quick bite before you bring your date (or let your date know you have never tried it, but it sounds great and he can't wait to try it - tell her you will take this adventure together and hope it is a hit!)  If you don't like the dining idea at a nice restaurant, that's okay too. To heck with traditions of years before, today we can stick to the standards and create a date from a neat restaurant or let our imaginations run wild, traditions be damned and find a more fitting place geared to you and your date's uniqueness!  Resource: Restaurant.com -

Never met face to face (online only perhaps)?
best first date scenario three:

When you haven't met the person face to face that you are about to have a first date with - some choose to proceed with a bit of caution the first time out. Often the women will want to meet at the date location so she can keep her home address confidential, (and some men as well). Taking things slower, there are options out there for that type of first date too. I have been on one such date and we met at a coffee shop near a very well known beach in southern California. The date went well at the coffee shop and we found ourselves deep in conversation about all sorts of things. When we tired of the coffee shop, we decided to continue the date by walking down to the beach and then up to the main streets in town.  Along the way we found more things to talk about, it was easy and relaxed. The streets in the main area of town were closed off to traffic for the weekend as the area is a big attraction for locals and those on vacations. There are adorable shops, unique dives and random people performing various acts on the streets, (like singers, dance groups and local artists who would draw your portrait on the spot). We ended up in a small English pub / restaurant where we enjoyed foods we don't normally get a chance to even try. We ended it by taking a ride in his car along some historical points near the shoreline. It was a date planned to just meet for a short time and say hello and it ended as a wonderful and entertaining day. You can do the same - meet for coffee and see if you click - and if you do, you can stretch your date by walking some place that holds small adventures waiting to be discovered! A street fair or farmer's market may be just around the corner and be a pleasant place to just be yourself and enjoy the atmosphere together. You could find a family owned ice cream shop that serves the best ice cream desserts around for miles and miles - you know, the one that only the locals know is a goldmine? A pier can be a place to go that brings calm, quiet and a sense of serenity if it perhaps extends out a good ways into the water, has a single structure at the very end and the only others on the pier at the time are a couple of fishermen.  Other piers hold a different treasure - the upbeat craziness of some creative minds... one that has several unique and tiny shops, a place that serves the best clam chowder in the states and has lots of people, all seemingly happy and playful in mood walking around enjoying the sun and the sites. Arboretums can house some pretty amazing sites, like one nearby here that has communities of peacocks, several gardens of world class rose bushes, a structure built over a hundred years ago that was also a featured structure in a TV show from the 70's. Pathways leading to more pathways and filled with rich plants that nearly make a tunnel they are so lush can surprisingly end up taking you to a little bridge over a small river. Follow it and find a pond that houses large colorful fish. You will have a lot to talk about as you find new wonders where ever you walk. It doesn't need to start at a coffee shop, some don't even drink coffee, (really, some do not!). It could be a bite to eat at a hole in the wall that has the best burgers in town. It could be that you choose  to go on a longer date, still safe, still meeting at the location, but planned to last more than 30 minutes. A trip to the zoo to see the on-loan pandas straight from China. A favorite museum that you would love to share with someone - take in the art or discover something new. Music in the park, movies in the park - the best free dates ever as you both should enjoy it, regardless fact it is free!  I love the laser show at the observatory. You lean back in comfy recliners and the lights go dim and the themed music, (like the Beetles) plays while a stunning show  of laser lights of all sorts dance to the beat of the songs and doing it with meaning you need to figure out, not know about before hand. 

Be creative, keep in mind those "musts" that were mentioned and plan a unique experience
that allows you both to be yourselves, have some time to learn a littlie about 
one another and have a memorable experience you can both keep with you long past 
the date (and if you follow the do's and watch out for the don'ts, 
you are much more likely to get a second date for a second adventure) Have fun!    

Do not spend the evening speaking of yourself and neglect your date.
Ask questions about them; i.e.., be interested in their occupation, their interests etc,
 'stroke their egos a bit' Don't ask them about their prior relationships with other men/women!
That is a "no no!"  Likewise, don't offer to speak all about yourself and your past relationships
either! Very un-comfortable in both circumstances.

Chose creative and places for your first dates, but not too exotica. For example,
don't try a restraint that sounds chic, but has food of some far off land in which
you and your date may or very well  may not care for!
Try a dinner restraint with perhaps some interactive play or comedy routine!
A restraint for lunch or dinner next to the ocean or in the hills tucked away!
Get advanced reservations so there is no waiting and try to get a seat
close to a great view, (something to talk about!)

Manners manners! Fold your napkins on your lap, brush up on etiquette, know your wines,
don't smack your lips and never chew gum on your date! Try not to condemn your
waitress or waiter... and on that note, do not put people or places or things down!
Do not appear to be a critical person or a snob. If your date isn't going well and it appears to
be a dude, don't prolong it  and try to make things better!
Let the other person off the hook in a nice/polite way and end the date!

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thoughts ...

So, What are you waiting for?

Right now,  you have the means and the opportunity
to go and find that perfect match...
the "one" that is just for you...
the relationship with a lifetime of possibilities,
adventures, friendships and tomorrows...
A relationship that you both created wisely, choosing from those
just as unique as you are... just as busy and in need of a
real meaningful courtship
but, not all the hassles of the typical blind dates...
or the "hit and misses" that come from "not knowing"
... the old nightclubs and bars
where you know you may enjoy the night at hand, but,
would never get involved in that scene for life!

You are special, unique and smart too!
A combination that you have to offer in a relationship that's valued...
treasured and that would last forever.... You have arrived!
You can chose only to see those who share your hopes and
dreams... your values, your interests, and who you will perhaps, 
"get to know" through emails and message boards...
so that there is no wasted time spent on those nights that you just knew
were failures... and you wished to just go home all night long...

Well, you are home now...
you are choosing the road that is in your best
interests this time...
this time, it will last ... this time your

Love Connection - Love Lines
Will Be Open, It will be different ... and this time, it will all "Fit"

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The real secret of attraction has been found!